sorry to hear this, girl . . . sending good thoughts . . . hang in there.

Hi Laura-
I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I have had 2 myself, one between my two daughters and one after my second daughter. The first one was very similar to what it sounds like you are going through now. I started cramping and bleeding. The doctor told me to go about my normal routine as best I could because there was no stopping it if that was what it was. I was about 10 weeks or so. I was told to save any "recognizable tissue" to bring in to his office in a few days. Not very pleasant, but I did was I was asked. I cried a lot at first and then just tried not to think about it. When we went to the doctor he did some tests on me (I think blood work) and determined that I was too low in my progesterone levels. You need this hormone in the first trimester to keep the baby in place (something about a plug it creates) until your placenta, etc develops enough. Since I did not require a DNC, I was able to try again the very next month since my miscarriage was basically like a heavy period. To my great joy, I got pregnant again that next month. I immediately started to use these progesterone vaginal suppositories. You have to find a pharmacy that actually makes them in house. You use one every night before bed and it keeps your levels up and baby in place. Keep in mind this was 1997 so I am not sure if anything new is out for this. Anyways, it worked. By month 3 I was good to go, pregnant as can be and Alyssa was born healthy 9 months later in August 1997. The second miscarriage occurred after the first trimester. I went to the doctor for the first fetal heartbeat check and there wasn't one. They sent me down to the hospital for a sono and you could see the baby was there but no heartbeart. This time I had to go home and wait a few days to see what would happen. Nothing did happen so I was admitted to the hospital for a DNC. It was not pleasant as I felt like I was taking the baby when maybe it wasn't ready to go. I had a lot harder time with this one as this was going to be my last try at another child. I asked my doctor if maybe both my miscarriages were boys and maybe I just couldn't carry boys. I also asked if he had ever seen woman who had a pattern to miscarriages and he said yes. My doctor said that many of them are a mystery with no known "cause." I know how much it hurts. I still mark the second baby's birthday/due date each year in my own little way. My girls will tell you that we have 4 kids in our family and that 2 are in heaven with God. I had a friend passed away at 42 with Ovarian cancer a few years ago. I always admired her as a mother. I have asked her to watch over my babies until I can meet them someday and that makes me feel a little better. I will say a prayer for you and Dan. Sincerely-
Jackie